Feelings

Chicken Soup for the Average Soul


Recently, my family went through a bit of an episode. My mom wrote about it on her blog and she received so many kind words and prayers. It’s crazy to know how many people have gone through similar situations or worse situations–it really puts things into perspective.

It’s nice to be optimistic, but you also have to allow yourself to feel what your mind is telling you to feel. If you want to be mad, be mad! Yell and scream and write angry letters. If you wanna be sad, be sad! Cry, listen to sad music, sleep, and get drunk. If you don’t express how you’re feeling, it’s becomes more difficult to get over everything.

The most important thing to surround yourself with uplifting people that will take your mind off of everything. A lot of people know just what to say. Validation is key when you’re feeling down and out. When people agree with you, you don’t feel quite as crazy. Some people say the wrong things though. They don’t know the situation and they’ll jump to wrong conclusions. It’s likely that they think they’re helping by thinking of the worst case scenario, but those are probably the worst things you could say. Some people just don’t get it.

But for every one of the people that don’t get it, there are twenty that do. Blogging is a great way to find all the people that make you feel happy and warm inside even when life is already good. It’s crazy how you don’t even have to meet people to have such a strong connection with them. And now I’m blogging about blogging. All time low.

But in all seriousness, it’s great to know that there are so many good people out there in the world and that we aren’t the only ones with problems. It kind of restores your faith in humanity when you read all of the kind things that people say to comfort those in need.

Anyway, don’t worry, I’m sure I’ll be back to my sarcastic, cold-hearted self by tomorrow.

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42 thoughts on “Chicken Soup for the Average Soul

  1. Aw, look at you being all nice and sweet. :)
    It’s true though. There are still SO many great people left in this world, despite how negative things seem at time. That’s part of what I love about this blogging world, meeting all those wonderful people who always have something positive and comforting to say. It’s amazing how much a kind word can lift our spirits.
    I hope you and your family are doing well.

    • Aw thanks little Lily! You’re one of the kindest around. But yeah it’s crazy how many people I feel like I know even though I’ve never met any of them! Ha. And I’ve never met another Lily besides you and I so I guess that’s another blogging bonus! :D

  2. Aww… Could Guapo possibly be any greater? Seriously. I love this man.

    Thanks my Lil, for always being there for me, saying the right thing, getting me to laugh, and letting me be me. Thanks for all that wonderful love. ;)

  3. I am keeping her in my thoughts and prayers. I know thought, she isn’t alone. I am sure you’re going through your own things. I want to support you too.

    People do say the wrong things with the right intentions but it doesn’t make them hurt any less. I am happy to hear it is mostly an out pouring of love.

    If you need and ear feel free to email me. If not and you just don’t feel like talking about it, I get that too. Sending love your way.

    x,
    Becca

  4. Marya says:

    Well put Cousin Lily, well put. You do meet people that just don’t get it or know what to say. And then, then, there are ALL those people who get it, and make you laugh. I find it remarkable that those you have collected in your World o’ Bloggin’ are fabulous, incredible to-the-point writers, empathetic, humorous, loving. I just know that if we all met up, we would like each other; we would maybe even love each other.

    God speed, oh sassy one, full o’ love.

    Yours in all of the above,

    Marya

    • Thanks Marya! Hah yes, I think similar personalities are drawn together in the blogging world. It’s true! I think I have a pretty great group if I do say so myself! I cannot wait for the day that all the bloggers I know decide to get together and have a party. It shall be grand! Thanks for being so kind and sweet. You’re a true cousin!

  5. Good post Lily. Since I read Lisa’s post I have had her in my thoughts on a regular basis. Makes one think, as we are in the same demographic, so I have great empathy. I can only imagine what it would be like to have that bus hit me (and it would be a bus).

    • Hah I know! Look how much excitement you missed! But yeah I hate feeling depressed, but I have to let myself go there because I don’t think I’ll feel okay if I bottle it all up.

  6. The people who don’t get it are the people who try too hard to fix the problem. Nothing anyone can say will ever fix the situation.

    I think it was in Bowling for Columbine when Michael Moore asked Marilyn Manson what he would say to the Columbine shooters. He said he woudln’t say a thing, he would listen because that’s the one thing no one ever did for them. I think that rings true for any problem. Shut up and listen. It’s the best thing you can do to help anyone.

    • Yeah Marilyn Manson seemed to know what’s up. Funny story about him. My uncle had a band in the 80’s or something (not a popular band, just a local kind of band) and Marilyn Manson tried out for it and they denied him. Bad move on their part.
      Anyway, back to your smart point. Yes, listening is one of the best things people can do. I never saw Bowling for Columbine because Michael Moore is just so so gross.

  7. You do meet a lot of lovely people on wordpress, i have. I hope your mum and everyone else keeps well.

    Your quote :
    Anyway, don’t worry, I’m sure I’ll be back to my sarcastic, cold-hearted self by tomorrow.

    Can’t wait :)

    • Hah thanks Harry. Yeah I think nice people attract other nice people so it’s no wonder that everyone found each other on wordpress. Hah I’ll try to think of something mean to post today…. ;)

    • Yes! I love being an aunt. I’m an aunt through marriage, but I still haven’t met my niece or nephew. If I meet Miss C before them, I truly will be her aunt!

  8. ZZ says:

    Wow, I’m behind here.

    I can’t help but think that you, again, because of your beauty and ebullience, have a relatively simple job to surround yourself with people who are willing to validate you and see you through rough spots. The rest of us average slobs attract a somewhat, ahem, “less helpful” cadre of people. Some of whom are looking to US to validate and cheer THEM up all the time. And some of these people may be close relatives, co-workers etc, that we can’t easily escape.

    But anyway, whatever advantages you DO have that attract people, feel free to use them, that’s your right!

    • Lol you’re crazy. I’m an average slob myself. In order to be validated, I think you have to do some validating yourself, ya know? There’s always give and take. Hah I hope I don’t come off as too high and mighty and taking advantage of people!

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